I used to believe that intelligent people were quick-witted. He didn’t give me a moment to ponder. “He’s a quick thinker. ” “Wow, he’s really bright.” It was something I tried for a long time. “QUICK, QUICK, QUICK!” was my mantra whenever I encountered a problem, discussion, or someone asked me a question. To be expected, my initial responses sucked. “Slow thinker” Derek Sivers, one of my favourite thinkers, claims: “Most people think your first reaction is the most honest, but I don’t agree. Most of the time, your first impression is incorrect. “Either you came up with the answer long ago and have been using it instead of thinking, or it has brought back memories of an event that happened a long time ago.” It takes time to think things through. I was always impulsive whenever I gave a quick response. Derek Sivers had to train himself not to

What do you do when you missed your habits for a day? If you’re like most of us, you probably get disappointed with yourself. We realise how important habits are, and we try hard to stick to them. And there’s a vast body of research that shows how beneficial habits can be. This only adds to the pressure to not screw up for a day. But here’s one thing you hardly hear: If you take your habits to an extreme, it backfires on you. Here’s what I’m talking about. Have you ever said things like this to yourself? “Oh no! I forgot to meditate yesterday! I’m losing my mind!” I know I’m travelling but I NEED to eat healthily every day! I’m already gaining weight. I didn’t work out today. There goes my good health. Stop being so dramatic! It’s not the end of the world if you don’t stick

Isn’t it wonderful to be alive? Despite this, it’s also difficult to grasp the complexities of life. Parents and teachers are fond of reminding their children of the fun they had as children. That’s the case for the vast majority of us. Looking back, it’s amazing how simple our lives were. When you’re a kid, all you do is play with your toys, go to school, hang out with your friends, and participate in various sports activities. However, as you get older, life becomes more and more complicated. You must first decide whether or not to attend college. The next step is to decide on your career path. You must find work. You begin to think about settling in. You’re provided with a vehicle. To buy a house, you take out a mortgage. Bills must be paid. It’s possible you owe money. Dogs are an option. How about tying the

Everything we do is approached in a “realistic” manner: “It’s impossible.” “What? How about constructing a plane? In my opinion, you’re a lunatic. “You’re doomed to fail.” Everyone fails, and you are no exception. “You have 1,000 songs in your pocket?” Yes, you’re right. “A 300-mile-range electric car? That’s incredible.” What comes next? “Is this some kind of time machine?” I exclaimed. The question is, ‘You want to be an artist, right?’” Get a job” is safer. “What’s the point of going around the world? “When everyone around you is telling you that you’re wrong, what will you do? Delusion. At the very least, some of it. Everything that is out of the ordinary is craziness. According to what others say, at least. Those who want to avoid a mundane existence must be both stubborn and foolish. Because it’s perfectly acceptable to lead a routine existence. That doesn’t require any

We’re all guilty of making up lame reasons to avoid doing things we don’t feel like doing. “Honey, I’m too tired,” is a common expression. “I have an appointment with the doctor.” “I’m going to a spinning class. “You’re not in the mood, you’re perfectly healthy, and by “spinning class,” you mean watching an episode of House of Cards. Those are all excuses. Nothing to worry about. There are some good excuses out there, but we also make some bad ones. We say things like, “I’d like to start a business, but I don’t have $100,000 to do so.”I’ve been putting off doing things I wanted to do for a long time because I’ve always found some lame reason not to. It’s true that I was apprehensive. Consequently, you never begin. Then again, it’s a simple means of deceiving yourself into thinking you’re not the problem. We will do anything

I’m sure you’re always extending your thoughts beyond what you’ve actually experienced.. Here are some examples to see if I’m right or wrong. “House prices are likely to continue to rise.” There’s no hope for that person. In the future, “My business will continue to expand.” It is impossible for me to learn from my mistakes. That’s why he doesn’t want to be around me.” These kinds of thoughts come to us repeatedly throughout the day. This problem stems from our tendency to make hasty decisions. Humans have a lightning-fast mental rate. However, how quickly can we even think? Though scientists have measured the speed of light and sound, they haven’t been able to quantify the speed of thoughts. Researchers who studied the speed at which thoughts are generated and carried out found that this number is as low as 150 milliseconds. If that’s the case, we’d be quicker than

Let’s be honest for a moment.? The more likes you get on Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media platform, the better your mood and self-esteem. Sadly, many of us trade social currency for self-esteem. The deal sounds good, doesn’t it? You can count on me to “like” your dog photos on Facebook. You also like my new profile picture, which features me looking away from the camera while wearing sunglasses. This exchange does have one drawback. It’s all a sham. Moreover, you are well aware of this! Whether you have a college degree, a dog or even a family, Facebook users have no interest in any of it. They don’t do anything to get you to like their content. In my opinion, that’s the power of crowdsourcing: Social media has become a self-sustaining industry based on the exchange of “likes. “Crowdsourcing confidence isn’t just about trusting the crowd. Is

Both Eastern and Western philosophers hold that we must learn to enjoy the present moment without getting side-tracked by thoughts of the past or the future in order to live fully. The human race has been ensnared in thought ever since the invention of words. A force that appears to be out of our control keeps us stressed, worried, and preoccupied. That’s why so many of us turn to philosophies that promise to bring us peace of mind. Most of us turn to the teachings of Stoicism, Mindfulness, and Zen as a way to detach from our thoughts. As long as we keep treating the symptoms, we won’t get to the root of the problem. Even I have been guilty of this. I’m a voracious consumer of new information. After a while, I realised that more information is not the answer. However, what is the root CAUSE of our current

I’d like to ask you a straightforward question: What is your name? Look, this isn’t even an interview for a job. A politically correct response isn’t what I’m after. As a professional, I take my job very seriously. “I enjoy spending time with my loved ones.” This holds true for everyone who is adamant about finding work. No, I’m referring to the person you really are. Let’s face it, we all have two personalities and lead two separate lives, as you and I both know. A person’s ideal life and their actual life are two different things. That’s how I used to be. “It’s impossible for me to live the life I really want,” I’ve always believed. And that’s why I was unable to go through with. Living my dream life. Making a living out of what I love to do. Taking full responsibility for my life and making it

Do you have close friends who never change? In addition, do you have friends who are always striving to improve? Both can be good friends, but the former will seem strange to you in the future because of how different you are from him now. Friendship can be a difficult thing to achieve. It’s just too raw. It’s especially true when it comes to long-term relationships, though. There are two main obstacles that I face: • What is a true friend? • Is it acceptable to grow apart from friends? First and foremost, I’ve come to understand that a true friend is someone who genuinely cares about your well-being. It’s done. In the words of Aristotle: ‘The man who wishes me well does so because he cares about me,’ says my best friend. ‘Many people, in my opinion, place unrealistically high standards on friendships. It’s imperative that you always look