If you want to live a happy life and achieve all of your goals, there is one quality you must possess: kindness.
“Human compassion has never sapped the stamina or softened the fibre of a free people,” Franklin D. Roosevelt said. To be tough, a country does not have to be cruel. “Nonetheless, vicious people can be found anywhere. It can be seen in the job, in relationships, in families, and even on the street. One thing I’ve noticed is that many people confuse kindness with weakness. But who says you can’t be kind while yet being firm? Many people believe it’s either one or the other.
We always discuss work ethic, inventiveness, and leadership while studying successful people, billionaires, and athletes. Those are important factors to consider, and we can learn a lot from them. Kindness, on the other hand, receives less emphasis. That is why the subject of this article and the subsequent observations is kindness. More than anything else, kindness has the power to instantly enhance your life.
You are not required to prove yourself.
Yes, you’re fantastic. However, you are not required to demonstrate this to others at all times. You’re in a pissing contest every time you correct someone, try to make a point when everyone already knows it, or act in an annoying way. You may piss as much as you want. No one will like you more than you will like yourself. We all know that focusing on “myself, me, and I” is a bad strategy.
You may have accomplished a lot in your life, but don’t let success get the best of you. There’s no reason to flaunt it in other people’s faces, even if you’re at the top of the world. Be modest. Be kind. “If you are not humble, life will visit humility upon you,” said Mike Tyson.
You Are Not Always Required to Share Your Thoughts
People are constantly eager to express their opinions on many topics. That’s fine; there’s nothing wrong with expressing yourself. However, the majority of the time it is unwelcome. Stop for a moment and consider whether you’re genuinely helping the other person or feeding your ego every time you say “I would do this or say that.” It’s OK to offer your thoughts about a situation, but the truth is that they are not you. So, quit offering advise that no one wants. People differ, which means that everyone sees the world differently. Instead of trying to change it, acknowledge it. Simply be there for others.
Open Your Heart to Others
We were all born without clothes, crying, or pooping. It’s not fair to judge someone because they appear different, speak differently, or have less money. Rather, be receptive to them. It is unjust to deny someone a chance before they try.
Don’t take things too seriously.
We are too easily offended. “She didn’t call me back,” we might say. “He didn’t express gratitude.”
You’re taking things personally every time you think he or she should have done this or that. Have you ever paused to consider that the other person wasn’t attempting to harm your feelings? They’re just regular people like you.
Recognize that you aren’t the centre of the universe.
We simply care about ourselves, let’s face it. However, this does not imply that the universe revolves around us. We have a habit of making everything about us. We say things like, “How is it my fault?” in disagreements. It’s not your fault, after all. Why do you believe that? That’s because you believe the world revolves around you. It’s not a zero-sum game in life. It’s not your vs the rest of the world. Collaborate to discover a solution. That’s a thoughtful gesture.
Don’t criticise what you don’t comprehend.
That was said by Bob Dylan in 1964. What’s different now? People continue to condemn things they don’t comprehend. I understand that criticism can be beneficial. But, for the most part, it’s pointless. Because not everything is suitable for all. Some individuals don’t understand you and will likely never do. That’s all right.
Criticism is only beneficial if it aids someone or a cause. It frequently has the opposite effect. Instead of bringing people together, it divides them. Try again if you don’t understand something. That is all that is expected of you; just try to be courteous.
Each of us faces unique obstacles. Someone else’s difficulties may appear little to you. However, we occasionally fail to notice how others are struggling. You are not compassionate if you cannot perceive that people’s lives are difficult. Kindness entails empathy for everyone, even if you can’t relate.
Hold No Resentment
Let’s say someone does something to you that you don’t like. Or perhaps something nasty is said. Is that individual now and forever a horrible person? Do you realise how ridiculous that sounds? Get out of your own way and forgive others. Look ahead and remember that each day is a fresh start.
Demonstrate an interest in others
It’s amazing how many people are genuinely interested in each other. Many people are merely interested in others to compare themselves to them. Why would you go on other people’s Facebook or LinkedIn pages? Alternatively, inquire about someone who is down. Others are used as benchmarks by some. That is hardly a kind gesture. Genuine curiosity prompts genuine inquiries. If you actually care about others, you are interested in what is happening in their lives.
Others Should Be Heard
When you ask a question, how frequently do you find yourself thinking about something else? The majority of us consider what we want to say or the next question we want to ask. The majority of our encounters consist of a shallow exchange of pointless inquiries. Break through the surface and engage in genuine dialogue. Care.
But you can’t do that until you pay attention. Pay attention to what people are struggling with, what they enjoy, and how they communicate. Make an effort to comprehend who they are. “Words of kindness inspire confidence. Kindness in thought leads to profundity. Giving kindness generates love.” — Lao Tzu. So, there you have it: my thoughts on kindness. One word of caution: I am not an expert on kindness. I’m not even Mother Teresa.
But I make an effort. You can also give it a shot—being kind is completely free.