What you do, not what you say, defines who you are. There are certain personality traits that make people who are highly effective the way they are. It’s easy to think, “I can’t be like that!” when we see someone who is truly exceptional. False. Despite the fact that some aspects of our personalities seem hardwired into our DNA, my observations show that you have more control over your personality than you might imagine. I’ve adopted personality traits that are at odds with who I am as a person and with the culture in which I was raised. The Netherlands is where I was raised. People here, in my opinion, are overly pessimistic and pessimistic. As a result, only about 3% of my followers are from the Netherlands. Personal growth is something they dislike. That’s how I was, too. However, when I began to travel extensively after graduating, I began to see things differently. People I met at work and in my personal life taught me valuable lessons about self-improvement and how to be more successful. I’ve also learned a lot from reading about people who are truly inspiring. The following is a rundown of 12 positive character traits to get you started. When I was studying successful people, I discovered these characteristics. We can create our own distinct personalities by adopting these traits and acting in accordance with them.
- Capable — This quality is universally applicable. I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t capable of being effective, happy, or successful. For them, life is a serious matter, and so is work. They do what they do for a reason. The most important thing about them is that they are well-informed.
- Curious — Assumptions are avoided by those who are curious. When I was younger, this was one of my biggest weaknesses. Everything was based on my preconceptions. Stop making so many assumptions, says one of my co-workers. To my knowledge, that’s how it went. When I realised what was going on, I decided to be curious instead. A lot of questions are asked by those who are effective. In this manner, erroneous assumptions are avoided.
- Assertive — When you’re assertive, people assume that you’ve got to be nice to get what you want. That is incorrect. Be courteous, but don’t go over the top in order to be friendly all the time. Effective people are self-aware. However, they are not willing to put themselves in harm’s way for the sake of others. Assertiveness is all about taking charge of one’s life.
- Forgiveness — Relinquishing your resentment is the most destructive action you can take. Grudges have ruined countless personal and professional relationships. Who did that to me? I don’t believe it! And perhaps the other individual doesn’t know why either! Stupid things are done by people. Take a step forward.
- Independent — Those who are successful are not easily swayed by other people. Those around them are taken in by their eavesdropping. They are, however, self-reliant thinkers. Outside events have little effect on them.
- Respectful — Isn’t it sad how insecure people can make sly comments about you or others? “You look so exhausted. “What’s going on?” That’s one of those sleazy insults designed to make you feel bad. Many people wish to bring you down in order to elevate their own self-esteem. Disrespectful people do not do this. You don’t have to agree with everyone in order to be civil. There is a big difference between internet trolls and effective people.
- Truthful — If you tell lies on a regular basis, you will eventually be caught in your own web, no matter how small it may be at the time. I’m not a superstitious person, but I believe that if you tell a lie, it will eventually come back to haunt you. That’s why telling the truth is preferable. In spite of its imperfections, it’s at least honest.
- Precise — difficult It’s to convey complex ideas in a few sentences. To be precise, one must expend time and energy. That explains why so many people seem to be stuck in a never-ending conversation. In the absence of specifics, they rely on a shotgun approach. They aimlessly spout words in the hopes that a few will connect. You aspire to be as accurate as a marksman. Every word and action serves a specific purpose.
- Fair — It’s common for people who deny the existence of fairness to be untrustworthy. Principles of fairness are universal. In summary, be honest and don’t play favourites when dealing with others. Consistency is key when it comes to treating others. That’s the only thing we can do to be fair. Because it goes against our nature at times, this may appear to be an impossibility in practice. Effective people, on the other hand, do a lot of things that defy the natural order of things. They go above and beyond what others would expect of them.
- Adaptable — Life is full of unexpected twists and turns. Adaptation is the only way to survive and thrive. Because of this, highly effective individuals are adaptable and fluid. In the event that you present them with a new idea that is superior to their current one, they will choose it. They don’t care about their ego or how smart they appear. They’re interested in what’s effective.
- Self–aware — Knowing what you can and cannot do will make your life much simpler if you are self-aware. We’re often unaware of our own identity. You need to be aware of your strengths and weaknesses if you want to be successful. Self-awareness will also help you to be honest about your weaknesses and mistakes. Imperfection isn’t a bad thing. Even if you’re a robot, you’re probably imperfect.
- Optimistic — An effective person will always find a way out of any given situation if they’re given the opportunity to do so. Gratitude can be found even in the bleakest of circumstances. Being pessimistic, on the other hand, is a piece of cake. All of us have the right to complain and say, “We’re unable to do that.” But saying, “Let’s figure out a way to make it happen” requires a lot of courage.
You are not a fixed individual. You may be born with certain inclinations. However, if you have the right attitude, you can adopt any of the above personality traits. Which one(s) you choose to follow is entirely up to you. Positive character traits, on the other hand, are a sure bet. The decision to become a certain person is yours, not someone else’s. Changing yourself is only a matter of time. After deciding on a personality and acting in accordance with it, you’re no longer on the path to becoming that person; you’re just that person.