I was recently unable to find a solution. A lack of focus, a lack of energy, and an inability to produce high-quality results plagued me. When I’m feeling overwhelmed, I remember a piece of advice I received from a friend and mentor: “Always return to the basics. “When you’re feeling overwhelmed, lost, or just plain unmotivated, go back to the basics. How do you define a fulfilling life? In the end, you’ll discover that you know the answer. The problem is that you’re too afraid to face the truth. As a result of my stumbling block last time, I realised that I had been ignoring some hard truths about life. Everything went back to normal when I resumed these lessons. The following is a list of things I’ve done for myself. In spite of the fact that these lessons are unpleasant, we all know how crucial they are.
- People are Selfish (and so you are) — No one likes to admit that people (including you) are self-centred. We all, of course, focus on our own interests. That’s a good result. It’s the only way we can get better. We can only help others if we are strong ourselves.
- You suck at a lot of things — Stop trying to take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, because you’re not very good at many of them. We aren’t as good as we think we are. A lot better than you expected. Because of this, you have a good reason to focus on the things you’re truly good at. Isn’t it liberating to be able to do this?
- Most people aren’t going to get you — and that’s fine. There is no requirement that everyone likes you. Be confident in your own skin. No one but yourself can give you approval.
You can only grow as a person if you put your mind to it and put your body to the test. Do things that require a lot of effort on a regular basis. You’ll get better if you put in the effort. I don’t care what happens. The only way to win is if you learn from your mistakes and grow from them.
- We all have to put money on the table in order to make a living — we all have to make difficult decisions. Moreover, we must make difficult decisions about how we spend our time. What do you prefer, reading a book or going out to a bar? What will you choose to do with an extra hour of work? You get to make the call.
Remember that you’ll probably still be here in 10, 20, 30, or even 40 years. Just remember that. What are your plans for the future now that you’ve lost your job? If you’re like most people, you’ve encountered difficulties along the way. There will always be setbacks. Because of this, you should get used to getting smacked in the face on a regular basis. It’s difficult to get up after being punched in the face. The easiest way to quit: “I don’t want to go through that again, so I’m giving up.” Getting out of bed, on the other hand, is a difficult task for which no one will assist you. It’s a must-do.
- Nothing in life is free — don’t undervalue your own worth. Get your money’s worth. Things that are cheap or free are not appreciated by anyone. We tend to focus on what we lack rather than what we have. Instead, we should pause and appreciate what we already have. In many cases, that’s all that’s necessary. What’s next? Make a go at it. But don’t lose sight of what you’ve already accomplished.
It takes effort to maintain friendships—Don’t take people for granted! They could leave you for good.
- Positive People give you a lot of energy — A positive outlook is contagious, so make an effort to spend time with people who are upbeat. You get a lot of energy when you’re around certain people. Look for them.
- Suffering is good — As long as it’s only a little bit of pain, suffering is good. Because you don’t know what to expect from it.
You don’t have to be constantly surrounded by people. It’s also not required that you be friends with ne’er-do-wells. Or, you could wed someone with whom you have no chemistry. Don’t be so agitated and uncomfortable with yourself.
Learning is the answer to everything — Knowledge and curiosity are the answers to all of life’s problems. Make as many trips back to it as possible.
Impatience is Toxic — It’s dangerous to be impatient because it prevents you from seeing what’s right in front of you. Live in the present, not the future. Wait for a while. You can accomplish anything you set your mind to if you put in the time and effort.
- Personal freedom — The highest form of success in life is the freedom to do what you want and to spend your time with those you enjoy. To get there, you don’t need much in your life. However, there is a cost to freedom. The only way to be free is to let go of everything that shackles you.
We must wait a long time to gain wisdom and freedom. And it’s not cheap either. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson “That which takes time to mature can only be described as liberty. Freedom is man’s achievement and perfection; it is never cheap. It is made difficult because freedom is that.”
All we have to do is keep breathing and gaining new knowledge. That’s the best way to lead a happy, free, and productive existence. Let’s go on this ride together. We may never get there, but I’m sure we’ll learn a lot along the way.