Do you have close friends who never change? In addition, do you have friends who are always striving to improve? Both can be good friends, but the former will seem strange to you in the future because of how different you are from him now. Friendship can be a difficult thing to achieve. It’s just too raw. It’s especially true when it comes to long-term relationships, though.
There are two main obstacles that I face:
• What is a true friend?
• Is it acceptable to grow apart from friends?
First and foremost, I’ve come to understand that a true friend is someone who genuinely cares about your well-being. It’s done. In the words of Aristotle: ‘The man who wishes me well does so because he cares about me,’ says my best friend. ‘Many people, in my opinion, place unrealistically high standards on friendships. It’s imperative that you always look out for one another. “You have to be available at all times.”
A friend is not a saviour. There are far too many friendships based solely on reciprocity. This X is done in exchange for Y, which you do for me. Putting too much pressure on a friendship isn’t something I prefer to do. To put it another way: What happens if a friend disappoints you in some way? Some people might think she’s a lousy pal. Friendships are tainted when people start gossiping about them. And I don’t think that’s friendship. High expectations are the number one reason for friendships to fall apart. To improve your friendship, simply let go of your expectations. For me, the best way to build a friendship is to get to know each other and share our thoughts and feelings. That’s a simple answer. However, the second challenge is a little more complicated.
What about the people who were once close to you and are no longer?
When friendships begin to deteriorate, they can turn into a burden. The things you once had in common are no longer shared by the two of you. It doesn’t matter why you or they changed; it could be for any number of reasons. However, I do not believe that people should be forced to form friendships. Inevitably, you will outgrow one another. It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t follow, however, that you should stop seeing each other or announce publicly that your friendship is over.
You’re just less likely to run into each other. Doing so serves no purpose. I’m baffled as to why people insist on adhering to old customs even when they no longer serve a purpose. “There’s something missing now. We don’t have anything to discuss. “Talk less if you don’t have anything to say. For both personal and professional relationships, this is the case. It is inevitable that you will outgrow a mentor at some point. In the end, it’s all part of living. It’s possible that a friend of yours has a long-term goal of staying single and going out every weekend. But you have a family to take care of. Both ways are fine. It’s not a big deal, to reiterate. If you value each other, you’ll value each other’s individual preferences. Even if you lose your cool, it’s okay. Again, you and I should see each other a lot less frequently. There are those, however, who never changes. They become complacent and cease to grow. You don’t have to keep moving forward just because other people don’t like it. And that’s the only consideration we need to keep in mind when it comes to friendships. Friends can sometimes hold you back when you’re trying to accomplish a goal. There is resentment toward your new self because they prefer the old you.
In Steven Press field’s book, Turning Pro, he sums it up best: “We will be targeted by those who are still haunted by their own anxieties. To undermine our efforts, they will tell us that we’ve changed and that we’re no longer the same. “Take it easy. Don’t dwell on the past; simply move on. However, loyalty is a good thing, but not if it’s sacrificed for it. In these cases, it’s perfectly acceptable to grow apart from your friends. As you progress, you’ll run into new people who’ve been through similar experiences. They become your friends. Like you, they’ve gone their separate ways. Living in the past is also a waste of time. Even if you cherish fond memories of the past, remember that time only moves forward. In addition, you might not be the same person you were the day prior. “To go back in time is pointless because I was a different person then “ – Lewis Carroll. So, what’s the point of feeling bad? The seasons shift. A person’s personality shifts over time. Friendships, on the other hand, are also important.
