Why it can be tough to form adaptable habits while chasing your goals
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Have you ever gone out intending to stick to a new behaviour… only to find yourself not doing it at all a week later? Why is it so difficult to develop good habits? Why is consistent change so difficult to achieve? How can we have the finest intentions to improve ourselves and yet see so little progress? And, most crucially, can we do anything about it?
Your Life Objectives are Not Your Habits
Your bold life objectives are fantastic. We admire you for having them. We are all filled with hopes and dreams. And, for the most part, we have a general idea of what those aims are: the way we want our bodies to look and the health we want to have, the respect we want from our peers and the meaningful work we want to do, the relationships we want with our family and friends, and the love we want to share
Overall, this is a positive development. Knowing what you want is good, and having objectives gives you a sense of direction and purpose. Your desires, on the other hand, can easily entice you to bite off more than you can chew. Too often, we let our motives and aspirations drive us into a frenzy as we attempt to tackle our entire problem at once rather than beginning a tiny, new practice. So, how do we strike a balance between our desire to make life-changing changes and the necessity to establish small, durable habits?
Dream Big, but Begin Small.
If we really want to create the new adaptive type of flexible habits it’s better that you start now by changing simple and small daily habits and do it regularly for a better outcome. These activities are so minor that you don’t even notice them. You simply do them on autopilot. They are small behaviours that develop habitual habits.
Wouldn’t it seem logical that if we wanted to create new habits, the ideal place to start would be with small adjustments that our brain could quickly learn and automatically repeat?
What if you started thinking about your life objectives differently, not as great, bold things that you can only accomplish when the timing is right, or when you have more finances, or when you finally get your big break… but rather as small, daily habits that are repeated until success becomes unavoidable? If you sow the proper seed in the proper place, it will grow on its own. To be more specific, if you choose the proper tiny behaviour and sequence it correctly, you won’t have to motivate yourself to have it expand. It will happen organically, like a good seed placed in a suitable location.
The traditional strategy is to jump into the deep end as soon as you feel motivated, only to fail fast and wish you had more willpower as your new habit drowns. The new strategy is to wade into shallow water and gradually progress deeper until you reach the point where you can swim whether you’re motivated or not.
- Concentrate on your lifestyle rather than your life.
- We are far too preoccupied with making life-altering changes.
- Losing 50 pounds would be life-changing, as would drink 8 glasses of water every day.
- Publishing your first book would be a life-changing experience and emailing a new book agent every day would be a novel way of life.
- Running a marathon would be a life-changing experience; running three days a week is a new way of life.
- Earning an extra $20,000 per year would change your life; working an extra 5 hours per week as a freelancer is a new way of life.
- Squatting 100 pounds more would be life-changing; squatting three days per week is a new way of life.
Life goals are beneficial because they provide direction, but they can also lead you to take on more than you can handle. Daily habits – little, repeated routines — are what make large aspirations a reality.