A negative thinking cycle might start with anything as little as a niggling feeling. There is a chance that someone may say something that offends me. A little injury may keep me from exercising. Something may go wrong at work. That’s the sensation, isn’t it? Everything in your life – profession, health, and personal relationships – starts to seem like a game of Russian roulette. Despite your best efforts, the issue persists. You attempt to solve it yourself. You’re obligated to deal with the commotion. The problem is that you don’t have any control over the commotion. That just serves to aggravate your annoyance. Negative ideas are taking over your mind right now. This was the tipping point when a little inconvenience turned into a major issue. The thought of abandoning your career or relationship makes you want to. Everything seems to be working against you. And that nothing in life is worth the effort. Negative mental patterns are common. That’s something I’ve encountered on a regular basis. And I’m sure you’ve had the same experience. Why does this happen to us? It’s a matter of power. We believe that life should proceed in a specific manner. This means that everything should go as we plan. It has to work, or else we’ll freak out. It’s common for people to get into a negative mental cycle when something ends.
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When There’s a Gap
Everything in life has an expiration date. Every aspect of your professional and personal life is intertwined. To put it another way, everything in our lives is a death in some way. Everything that dies leaves a hole in our hearts. This incident is neither good nor harmful in and of itself. It’s a part of life’s cycle. If we strive to replace the item that has departed our lives, we might transform its departure into something negative. For example, many individuals attempt to fill the hole left after a breakup by taking on more responsibilities. This has happened to me before. When a relationship ends, you get back all the time and energy you invested in it. In an effort to avoid feeling lonely, you work more in an attempt to fill the emptiness. Setting greater objectives and doing a better job is what you want. However, that’s just you trying to escape reality. The fact is that endings aren’t fun. On the other hand, it’s a part of life. We shouldn’t put up a fight against the tide of change. There are things in life that cannot be replaced. You can’t just spend more time with your spouse if you lose your job. Despite this, many of us do just that. When we lose our jobs or fail in our jobs, we think, “At least I can spend more time with my family now. “You’re attempting to fill a vacuum with your actions. But that’s a lot of work. When even a seemingly little event triggers a negative thinking cycle, your whole foundation begins to tremble. Why? Because you’ve had a shaky foundation for so long.
There Is a Time and a Place for Everything
You can’t make up for the absence of a meaningful connection with more jobs or physical activity. Alcohol and drugs will never be able to make up for a lack of health. A spiritual gap cannot be filled by spirituality. When you’re attempting to get away from reality, you need to catch yourself. This is one of the most difficult aspects of living. Denial is a way of life for many individuals. That is not something we can allow to happen. It’s time for us to look inside, not outside. From personal experience, I can attest to the difficulty of this task. Any time anything ends in my life, I have a hard time accepting it. My initial instinct is to look for a new employee. Everything has a place, and I’ve come to realise that. Your boyfriend or girlfriend can’t replace your buddies. More work will never be a substitute for regular exercise. In order to get the most out of every day, it’s important to set aside enough time and energy for everything. We know from thousands of years of evolution that all humans have the same basic requirements. We need safety, support, connections, joy, perspective, and purposeful use of our time to keep us sane and happy. To a person, this holds true. A helicopter vision is required when you realise this fundamental truth about life. It’s time to broaden your outlook on life. You can’t see the forest through the trees while you’re locked in a rut of negativity. You’re engrossed in your ideas, and they’re consuming you. Taking a broader view of life is something you must push yourself to do. It’s not only what’s going on right now, though. Look at the nature of life, and you’ll see that it revolves around movement.
Breaking the Negative Thought Loop Through Letting Go
The Untethered Soul author and former CEO of a multinational software firm, Michael A. Singer, summed up the notion of letting go this way: “It’s a really stark contrast. Either you let go or you don’t,” he says. He knows what he is talking about. The Department of Justice brought a case against Singer on charges of securities fraud. In that point, he was in danger of losing all he had. Although he was eventually exonerated of all accusations, he had already let go of the case long before then. The Untethered Soul was written when he was persecuted, in reality. You and I can let go if a person who is in danger of losing everything is able to do so. Everyone has their own set of rationalisations for why they can’t do anything. It’s stated that letting go is more difficult than it seems. Breaking a negative thinking cycle isn’t as simple as you would think. Every one of us is faced with our unique set of difficulties. Some individuals will go to great lengths to persuade others that they are really suffering. Nobody really gives a damn. You are the one who let’s go.
So, if you find yourself caught in a negative thinking cycle, you have two choices:
- You allow yourself to be destroyed by it.
- It’s time to let go and go on with your life.
There’s no right or wrong answer. And it really is that easy. See for yourself if you choose one of those two possibilities or the other.