Let’s be honest for a moment.? The more likes you get on Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media platform, the better your mood and self-esteem. Sadly, many of us trade social currency for self-esteem. The deal sounds good, doesn’t it? You can count on me to “like” your dog photos on Facebook. You also like my new profile picture, which features me looking away from the camera while wearing sunglasses. This exchange does have one drawback. It’s all a sham. Moreover, you are well aware of this! Whether you have a college degree, a dog or even a family, Facebook users have no interest in any of it. They don’t do anything to get you to like their content. In my opinion, that’s the power of crowdsourcing: Social media has become a self-sustaining industry based on the exchange of “likes. “Crowdsourcing confidence isn’t just about trusting the crowd. Is there anything we can do if no one likes what we post? Yes, we have a bad case of the shits. How come?
Are we really this shallow? It’s not just on social media that this is happening. Many people have no social media accounts at all. Instead, they exchange their lack of self-confidence for the affirmation they receive from family, friends, co-workers, and others. Everyone does it, as you can see. Our spirits are lifted when someone compliments us on our work. It’s a sign of trust. It’s something we can’t live without. I’ve been searching for validation for years without even realising it. It slowly enters your body. When I was a business owner, I spent a lot of time seeking affirmation from customers and prospects. I doubted myself if people didn’t like our products. However, the following day, a client complimented me, so I felt good about myself. It was the same when I worked for a large corporation. As long as my co-workers or boss praised my efforts, I was content with my position. People who didn’t appreciate my efforts made it a terrible job.
Is this familiar to you?
Relationships are no different.
My new haircut went unnoticed by him.
My progress in the gym isn’t mentioned by her at all.
“I was there for him at all times. He no longer calls me.”
The following statement may be difficult to take in: Nobody gives a damn.
The answer is both yes and no. Is this clear to you? What I’m saying is that it’s not the responsibility of others to make you happy. To make things even worse, we have this unrealistic expectation that others will respond favourably to our posts and say nice things about us. Relationships, and more importantly, your own self, are ruined by this type of behaviour. “However, why should I take any action? Why do people go to work? Or else, why even try to be polite? I mean, come on. The question is whether or not you’re just looking for praise or social media likes. That’s a bad way to get motivated because it’s reliant on other people’s actions. Take charge of your own destiny. In no way, shape, or form. You’re only here for a short period of time, so make the most of it. And don’t worry about what other people think. Show courtesy and consideration for other people’s freedom of choice. “You’re awesome!” isn’t the only thing people are waiting for you to do before praising you.
When you stop trying so hard, you’ll receive the recognition you desire. Confidence is key. Always. Don’t rely on external factors like compliments or attention to make you feel good about yourself. Attention-seekers are unwelcome in the company of others. Instead, it’s a trait that inspires others to be around confident people. “Have faith in your abilities! Confidence in yourself is key! You can’t be successful or happy unless you have a reasonable amount of faith in your own abilities.” Norman Vincent Peale, “The Power of Positive Thinking “The question is, “How do I gain confidence if I can’t crowdsource it? “When you spend time with a lot of confident people, you’ll start to feel confident as well.
The term “mirror neurons” may be new to you. Imitative behaviour is controlled by neurons in primates’ brains, according to Italian neuroscientists working in the 1980s.In a nutshell, we mimic each other’s actions. As a result, I’ve also learned to stop relying on other people for validation. My teachers and role models. With a strong belief comes confidence. In other words, it’s something you can whip up in a flash on-the-fly. Your mindset shifts from one of doubt to one of confidence. It’s not a difficult subject matter at all. The body follows after that. While hunched over, you straighten up, open your chest and inhale through your nose instead of slouching. Consider the possibilities. It’s there, and you can feel it. It’s up to you. It’s true, and you can bet on it. My mentors are all hard-working people, and I’ve learned a lot from each of them. On the other hand, they benefit others in the process. Being unconcerned with the opinions of others frees up their time to pursue their own interests. The audience is why I work so hard. It’s a form of amusement. Validation isn’t something I want or need. As stated by Denzel Washington. Because when you stop crowdsourcing your confidence, you can focus on the things that really matter. It doesn’t really matter if you get a lot of likes, praise, or pats on the back.
You are what you do. In the words of Will Durant: What we do over and over again defines us. The only tangible thing we possess in this world is our actions. It’s not just what we say that matters. Because acting the right way will lead to greater self-confidence. You are capable of more than you think you are. You don’t need to look outside yourself for answers; you only need to look within.
