Everything is simple to get started with. Anyone can become a writer, singer, artist, entrepreneur, etc. Only a small percentage of those begin to persist. The desire to start a business, for example, is widespread. However, it appears that the focus is on getting started. After five years, most businesses have gone out of business. A similar argument can be made for occupations in the arts and humanities. Aspiring writers usually get off to a fast start, writing for a few days, weeks, or even months before moving on to something new. A lot of experts and writers in the personal development space say that the most important thing is to get started. According to my own experience and that of my readers, the most important thing is to keep going. Hereās an email I recently received: āHowdy, Darius. Your blog is enjoyable to read. I read it when I was depressed. And it changed my thoughts and perspective about my life and the world. And now I want to create something for others. I started with a tiny step. It was easy at first. But after that, I felt like I lacked inspiration. How do you keep going even if you donāt know whatās next?ā
Itās an essential question. Not knowing whatās next is something every person who wants to make something out of their life has to deal with. Hereās what I do to tackle that challenge.
1. Focus on The Day
Much of our anxiety comes from uncertainty about the future. āWhat will happen tomorrow or in a year from now?ā It can be scary to think about that if your thoughts are dark. I can tell you for hours that the world wonāt blow up tomorrow, but if youāre in the wrong state of mind, you wonāt listen to a word I say. The best thing you can do is to focus on your very next stepāRIGHT NOW. What are you going to do next? Not as in, āWhatās your next big move?ā No, what are you going to do after youāve read this? Make something out of your dayāforget about the past and the future. Look, maybe youāre right. Maybe tomorrow the world will end. Are you really okay with wasting today on crap you donāt control? No, of course not. Do something with your day. Forget about the rest.
2. Set Goals You Control
Ā Ā When you set goals, you donāt have control over, you will think itās impossible. Plus, you will always depend on others for your success. Remember this: Never give the wheel to someone else. Youāre the ruler of your kingdom. Youāre in the driver’s seat. Thatās why you want to focus on things you control. You donāt control the rewards you get. If people donāt want to give you their business, so what? If people donāt want to hire you, so what? You donāt control them anyway. Itās none of your business. Your business is to improve yourself, make the best of your day, be a good person, and do whatās in your best interest. Think about what you control. Very few things, right? That should make this step easy. All you have to do is to grab a piece of paper and write your goals on it. Next, work on it.
Ā 3. Adjust When Itās Necessary
A while back, Tim Ferriss (author of the 4-Hour Workweek) tried to change the business model for his podcast. He went from ad-based to fan-based funding. He asked listeners to contribute $10 a month or more if they wanted. He announced that this was an experiment for something like six months. But he didnāt let it come that far. Three or four weeks later, he pulled the plug, refunded all contributions, and immediately went back to ads. Tim said that āexperiments can sometimes yield conclusions much more quickly than expected. āSometimes we try something new. And quickly enough, we find out it didnāt go according to plan. In fact, our assumptions and plans were totally off. In those cases, we should not be afraid to make bold decisions. Tim has millions of listeners and yet, he wasnāt afraid to (1) change his business model and (2) switch back to the old system when he learned the change didnāt work out. Thatās life. No big deal. He didnāt stop podcasting altogether and kept going. He simply made an adjustment. Too often, we go into crisis mode, āOH NO! THIS DIDNāT WORK! AAAAH!ā So, what? Make an adjustment. In fact, keep going and keep adjusting until you find the right fit for your career and life. There are no formulas. Life and business are like producing a song. I know a music producer who told me this when I asked him about his creative process: āI come up with a melody, turn it into a song, and then finally, I keep turning the knobs until it sounds right. āKeep turning the knobs, my friend. When it sounds right, youāll know.